The Philosophy of the Facial: Why does cumming on a woman’s face turn men on?
What makes a facial sexy? What does this act of dispersing cum all over a woman’s face represent in the male eye that arouses him so greatly? It’s not that the act itself grants him more pleasure or that it makes the woman feel good — it’s an act that gains it’s value through symbolic means of the male imagination. Is the cum meant to defile her, or does it act as a nutrient used to sustain her? Sperm is the male life source that helps bring life into this earth — it can be perceived in this way as a vital form of energy. This is when the cum is seen as directly moving directly from the male to female body. The notion of cum as a substance that degrades and corrupts is when it is dispensed on the woman’s body itself. Where does the line begin from its nature to bring life and its nature to debase? Why does a man like both the idea of being an essential participant to the creation of human life and being the one to actively demean and blemish? One shouldn’t view men as inherently destructive or sadistic by virtue of him having these dual impulses. Humans, as a whole, are each genetically endowed with the capacity to cooperate and the ability to commit atrocious actions. We are no better than those we seek to condemn.
In this same vein, sexuality is neither good nor bad; it is simply the means evolution bestowed upon us to reproduce from one generation to the next. Evolution isn’t guided by moral intention (although we sometimes act as if it does), there’s no specific direction it moves toward (we like to assume that it progresses but that isn’t quite the case), it doesn’t choose what is most beneficial to the species as a whole; its sole concern is to replicate its genetic code and reproduce. That’s it. A lot of sexual preferences men and women have stem from our own evolution; men and women’s desires are sometimes seen as at odd’s with each other. In a lot of ways they are, but that’s why we utilize open-ended communication in discussing our various kinks and can come to a mutual consensus in regards to our personal boundaries and turn-ons. We aren’t guided strictly by our biological imperatives anymore, we can acknowledge the role they play in shaping what we desire sexually, but we are not beholden to those desires — we have the capacity to intellectualize these desires, discover their origins in our personal history, and make the final decision to act on them with a willing partner. I like to remind people not to feel shame about these feelings, and if you do, to verbalize what you’re experiencing and intellectualise them in a way that helps you view them with more clarity and self-compassion.
